Rearing the second child
People say that parents raise the second and the following children more frankly than the first child. Is that true? Actually, I myself am the second daughter. My grandfather said that my sister was the most important and I was the second. My mother said that they let me cry much when I was a baby, although I felt my parents’ love a lot. The back of my head is very flat and I believe that it is because I was not held fully and I was laid for a long time when I was a baby.
Now, I have two children. The situation of raising each child was different. At first, I got used to baby crying sound. My son talks loudly, so I feel that my daughter’s crying voice is soft. Then, we moved to a current house last year. When I lived at the previous house, I worried about my son’s crying voice because we lived in an old apartment. Now, we live in an independent house, so I don’t have to care about the sound even though our neighbor of the previous house had not care about our sound so much. Furthermore, my son behaves like a baby after his sister was born. He tries to get his parents’ attention. Recently child care experts say that parents should take good care of the first child, and I try to do so. As a result, my daughter cries for longer time than my son when he was a baby. Nevertheless, my son usually goes to a nursery school and I spend a half day alone with my daughter. During daytime, I take care of her much.
My attention to my daughter may be less than that to my son, but I know it is sometimes good for the second child. When I was a child, my elder sister was scolded more than me, maybe because adults pay more attention to my sister and they naturally expect that she could do much more than me. Thanks to my elder sister, I could live my life freely and I might be a cherry picker. Now, I have a tendency to put an expectation on my son to do what people say that 3-years-old boys can commonly do. However, I should go easy on him and accept him just as he is. Anyway, I love both of my children. I’d like to cherish my children’s own lives and enjoy parenting!!